What do you really want?
- Not what your ego wants.
- Not what your family wants.
- Not what you think people will respect.
I’m talking about what your heart and soul craves.
It’s hard to know what you really want out of life when you never allow yourself to stop and think about it.
We are so conditioned to crave outside validation. To worry about what other’s think. It can take our lives in directions we don’t really want. Directions that don’t feel good. Imagine the sense of freedom and empowerment that can come from saying ‘screw the rules’ and carving out your own path.
When you’re constantly filling up your schedule, afraid to be alone with your thoughts, constantly rescheduling vacations and wearing your busyness like a badge of honor, you’ll never get clarity on what your soul really needs. You deserve that opportunity to find out.
Here's what I know to be true
No amount of financial success, accolades or keeping yourself busy will ever cure your energetic and emotional stuckness.
You need to go deeper.
I was just like you
- In a high paying corporate job
- Happily married
- With a beautiful home and seemingly perfect life
But that life I had built didn’t feel as great as I had imagined it would. I was surrounded by stress and toxic people at work. I was completely disconnected from myself, so I ignored the warning signs like crazy migraines, anxiety and sleep problems for over 10 years!
My lifestyle didn’t make me happy or fulfilled. The buzz of getting another promotion or pay rise lost faded and all I felt was numbness. I never looked after myself or did anything to nourish my soul. That seemed like an unproductive use of my time. I was so focused on getting more and more work done that my health was completely neglected and I was running on coffee and adrenalin to keep me going each day.
When I moved to America for university at 22, my life changed. I was desperate to fit in and no one in my new community understood about meditation and energy work. I was often jokingly called a crazy lady when I brought it up. It felt safer to suppress that side of me. To push it down in order to belong.
So that’s how I slowly found myself 10 years later, in a life that looked impressive but felt terrible. I hadn’t practiced meditation in years. No one from my family back in India knew how lost I had become. I felt like I had to keep up a charade that everything was perfect, so no one would be disappointed in me.
My wake up call came when I was failing at the one thing I knew I wanted…
I always knew I wanted to have kids, but I spent many years trying to build up my career instead. When I finally felt like I was ready to start trying, I expected it all to fall into place quite quickly. I was the kind of person who was used to succeeding in life. The kind of person who always had a schedule and a plan. But things were not going to plan in the baby department!!
My husband and I had been trying unsuccessfully to have kids for some time and it was started to get frustrating and demoralizing. We ended up in a doctors office where we were told we only had a small chance of conceiving with IVF. This news hit me like a tonne of bricks and made me reassess everything.
I know you too may be started to come to the realization that your life isn’t as shiny and perfect as you once thought it was or how it looks on the outside. You may be feeling deep frustration, stress and inner conflict trying to reconcile where the life you feel truly inspired to lead fits with your successful career you’ve already built. So, let me ask you, does your job actually make you happy, or does it just make you money?
I knew my life needed to change
Chronic stress and poor sleep certainly don’t help our chances to conceive. But I felt it was more than that.
I knew had to change not only my lifestyle but also reawaken my heart, soul and body that had been switched off and disconnected for some time. To clear energetic blocks and rewrite the stories I had been telling myself for 15 years.
So I went back to my roots and rebuild my spiritual practice from the ground up. Since then, we have managed to get pregnant on the first round of IVF and have two beautiful children, who are the light of my life.
When I saw how I had the power to change my fertility story, It gave me the momentum to quit my soul-sucking corporate job and help other women discover what they truly wanted out of life and achieve it too!
Your story might sound similar to mine or quite different.
Pari Patri is an award-winning executive empowerment coach for successful but stuck women ready to learn how to step fully into their power. She is also a corporate trainer who teaches meditation to organizations.
Through her 1:1 Program – The Life-changing Power of Self-prioritization, she takes women on 3-month program of self-discovery, soul care and releasing the parts of their life that don’t serve them.
Pari was recently recognized as one of the Top 20 Global Women of Excellence by U.S Congressman Danny K. Davis for the Annual International Women’s Day. Pari lives with her husband and two kids in Clarksburg, Maryland.
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